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Why Forgiveness Is Overrated
We’re often told to forgive each other. But forgiveness isn’t easy, and it’s not enough either. There's a better way.


Four Rules to Make Life Easier: Assertiveness, Relationships and Control
A checklist to see if you have a problem with being assertive — and some help in getting you past that problem.


Achievement and Self Esteem: What Tiger, Elephant and Snowplow Parents Should Know
Do we build our children’s self esteem by pushing for achievements, or by praising their achievements? There’s a third way.


Five Ways We Avoid Intimacy
Really letting someone into our lives is a wonderful but risky experience. Here are five ways some avoid the risk — and lose the wonder.


Six Steps To Stop Money From Ruining Your Relationship
Money is a source of conflict in most relationships. Here’s why that’s so, and what we can do about it.


Why We Don’t Even Try: Laziness, Determination and Learned Helplessness
We judge others for their laziness, timidity, inefficiency and lack of determination. But Learned Helplessness can be a better explanation.


When Your Parents Disappoint You: The Difference Between Being Loved, and Being Lovable
How our parents treated us can impact how we feel about ourselves. But a difficult childhood doesn’t mean we have to feel bad forever.


Can’t I Take a Pill and Feel Better? Mental Health, Medication and Money
We have enormous faith in medicine and science. But psychoactive drugs are less effective and less safe than we have been led to think.


Assertiveness: The Antidote to Depression
Learning how to stand up for ourselves can do wonders for our mood. And the opposite is equally true.


“Doing Fine” When We’re Not: Intimacy, Competition and Shame
Sometimes we’d rather die than let others know we’re feeling bad. What’s behind this, and how does it keep us in our cycle of sadness?
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